14 years ago, Gary Speed passed away. I have been thinking of him over the past 24 hours. When you see all these sports stars that we all think have it all, money, fame etc. But as has been proven many times, they suffer like the rest of us and have the same problems as the ordinary punter.
It was heart breaking to watch the footage from Match Of the Day and see him in studio in the hours before he passed away. It is another reminder of how frail the human mind can be. Someone might look like they have it all but the reality might be very different.
Amazing when you speak of it, how you hear so often “I never he or she felt like that”. I can only go from my own experience to help and explain the feelings.
As Christmas is around the corner, you can be sure while many people enjoy the time of year ahead. More people dread it with real dread not just something that people might think be in someone’s head.
I will openly tell anyone, I am not a big fan of Christmas and while that is slowly changing, the memories and reasons for not being a major Christmas fan are very much still there.
The amount of times you see the word “lonely” attached to this time of year will always set me thinking. You will of course have those who can’t stand the time of year and more like myself who just want a quiet Christmas with no interference but many will relish the time of year a revel in it.
My reason, for using Gary Speed at the start of this is to highlight again, that even the supposed strongest in society can struggle at any time. I remember the news of his death very clearly and the shock I felt at the time.
I am reminded every time I see news of certain deaths, of my own experience and while I have learned to live with my choices and the consequences of what may have happened if I had gone through with any of my attempts.
I will never take for granted the fact I did not go through with it and will do my best even in a small way to help those who may not feel they can’t talk openly about things that may be affecting them.
In 2025, I am in the strongest place I have ever been and while I know that is not the case for many people, always remember when and if you are ready, the support will be there for you.
Of course not everyone will want to accept that help and that is their choice. That side needs to be spoken about too. My own experience is that you just don’t want to speak to people openly about any issues or troubles. My attitude was “I’ll sort it myself”.
With Christmas on the horizon, enjoy it and what might be ahead for you and yours. Just be mindful of people in certain circumstances if you can.
I’ll do as I always have and enjoy a quiet peaceful one here in my home, Christmas number 3 out on my own….. Enjoy the time of year ahead and just remember to think before you speak…..
My thoughts are with the Speed family as well as any other family that have been affected at this time of the year in particular….
